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Let's continue our previous conversation with business and spiritual development coach, Lily Finch.
In the early years when a woman has little babies around her is the most difficult. She needs the care and protection of someone who honors her and her children. Many of us didn’t get that. We had husbands who dominated, manipulated, controlled, deceived, used and abused us and our children because their own insecurities and fears were so great. Some of us had to learn how to go at it alone and raise our children in great financial insecurity in order to be true to ourselves and protect our children. But many women refused to rock the boat of this 'illusionary security’ and stayed put. (This isn’t about a ‘right and wrong’ way, as most single mothers, because their fears and insecurity issues hadn’t been overcome either, just went on to ‘cook up’ even worse conditions for themselves and their children. All perfect. Perfectly painful!)
Now, I am spending the majority of my time consulting with and holding retreats for some of the millions of women at the peak of their lives. Many of them are middle aged and they are just now coming to grips with the fact that they are without the children who gave their life meaning and purpose. Only now are they rubbing the sleep from their awakening eyes, and they are finding out that they don’t know WHO they are. They don’t know their unique purpose and they can’t see that they have reinforced sick and dysfunctional relationships or have just become another one of the ‘good ole boys club’ on the corporate or business ladder. Both extremes are killing them and squelching the last little flicker of life out of them! Their core belief is the same thing it always has been; that if they DO have a dream or DE-SIRE, there are only two choices: make, force, push and manipulate to provide ‘security’ for themselves or stay helpless, weak and dependent on someone else by NOT rocking the boat or speaking their truth...
...In the end, the only person who can really love, honor and cherish you is YOU! And you can only learn how to fully do that by transforming your current belief through a direct experience with Source! Therefore, giving up your dreams to someone else because they can’t handle change, is as effective as asking a plant to grow without light or water! It will kill you! And a relationship which is worth saving-WILL never ask that of you!
Women who want to live a life of freedom, peace and fulfillment have to give up certain things:
1.We have to give up seeking illusionary ‘security’ and seek security from the only place authentic security comes.
2.We have to give up thinking that the way to this authentic security is going to happen without us learning how to align with it. Real security isn’t a random arbitrary event.
3.We have to GROW UP and give up the expectations we might still have of our parents, spouses, partners and any others to be different than they are.
4.We have to grow up and start taking responsibility for RECEIVING truth and the subsequent peace, freedom and fulfillment which comes from truth. (Truth always sets you free, remember?)
5.We have to commit to being true to our truth no matter the cost (and then we will see that there CAN be nothing lost when we do!)
6.We have to stop making others responsible for our lack of intuition and discernment and therefore our happiness.
7.WE have to stop basing our value and our peace upon anything external including:
A.Money or the lack thereof.
B.Unrealistically flawless and thin bodies or ones that are SO not that!
C.Youth or it’s opposite.
D.Caring what others think of us!
As long as we care about the good or the bad OPINION AND ACCEPTANCE of others including those in our communities, the husband/boyfriend, the lack of husband/boyfriend, the church, those we have given authority to, those that tell us what is and isn’t true, we cannot be true to ourselves. And as we get older we have to give up caring even about the very opinion of our adult children! (That is, if we DO want our children to grow and evolve toward Source which is the only way they will find their own peace, freedom and fulfillment!)
Lily Finch, is a business and spiritual development coach. Her work can be found in the Best Selling Series, Wake Up...Live The Life You Love. In the book, A Search for Purpose, you will find her writings featured with Wayne Dyer, Anthony Robbins, Bill Harris and Brian Tracey. She is the author of ‘Holy and Humorous Hell and ‘Butterfly Medicine:Metamorphosis from Caterpillar to Butterfly, Woman to Goddess' under the pen name, Flowerbird.
She is an Inspirational Speaker and the creator of the ‘AlchemEnergy Method of Energy Transformation and the AlchemEnergy- Alchemist-in-Training Codex E-Course. She is a Business Entrepreneur and even a general Contractor.
Lily consults with women on being whole and integrating the spiritual with the physical on every level. She can be reached at: http://lilyfinch.com/
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Thursday, May 13, 2010
What's Your Motivation? You Can't Create From Need or Greed. More Conversation with Lily Finch
Now, let's pick up here from our previous conversation with business and spiritual development coach,Lily Finch,
To be greedy is to fear that there is not enough. However, to say it is greedy, wrong and evil to dream or to seek ‘more,’ is to allow divine creativity to shrivel up and die and to give up the abundance that Source has planned for us in the process! As a matter of fact, desire itself, means to be Sired OF the Father. DE-SIRE! To be created by our Source means to endlessly seek and desire growth. Human beings are the only creature on the planet which even seeks the edge of the very universe! We were created in order to learn to effectively create!
There is another amazing thing we learn in DESIRE. We learn what does and doesn’t work to bring about our desires. We learn that it doesn’t work to seek from THE motive of FEAR! We amass great wealth, fame and so called ‘security,’ and yet, if we do so from subconscious fears, we will now only live in greater fear of ‘losing’ it! And every decision we make will be with that same insane thinking and bring about the very thing we fear! You simply cannot ride two horses with one butt! ‘If you pray for success while preparing for failure you will have that thing for which you have prepared.’ So, how can this be authentic wealth? That is actually authentic HELL! If we acquire to feel ‘enough’ and use it to cover up the illusions of scarcity, lack, limitation and loss, then we have just INCREASED our fear, rather than diminished it, since there is now MORE to lose! If we have based our entire value upon anything other than what brings us peace, we WILL CREATE OUR OWN FEARS and we WILL ‘lose’ it! And yet, even in ‘losing’ it, it is absolutely PERFECT!
So how does one learn to use effective creativity in building new ‘BEAUTY WAY’ models of holistic business, leadership and influence? First it’s important to know the basic, core obstacles women face and will have to learn the keys to first transforming these within themselves before they are capable of attracting AUTHENTIC wealth (on every level) to themselves while at the very same time, elevating humanity and shifting the planet in the process:
1. The overwhelming majority of people on the planet operate from more than 95% subconscious. This means that most people are completely unaware as to not only WHAT they fear but that energy of FEAR, itself, is the source of all suffering!
2. Most people have no clue that their subconscious fears have greater power than their conscious desires!
3. Most people do not know that whatever it is that they desire- always has an equal and opposing fear that blocks the desire from manifesting. In addition, they have no idea that there is a simple formula for how to resolve this!
4. More than 99% of all human beings on the planet do not know HOW to discern TRUTH for themselves and therefore are dependent upon someone they have given authority to discern it for them. And to make matters worse, most of those in authority are clueless as to how to discern truth and will only know how to use their authority to control others for their own security!
5. Most Human beings have been told for thousands and thousands of years WHAT to believe and yet, were NEVER taught HOW to KNOW for THEMSELVES what is true. As long as a person does NOT know how to discern what is true for them, then they will always be controlled and manipulated by those in power and authority over them.
6. Most people on the planet do not know that there are simple and beautiful ways to learn or ‘re-remember their power to discern and intuit truth.
7. Most people on the planet do not know that there is an actual formula and science to unlocking the ability to being the Alchemist of their own life and transforming energy on every level.
8. Most people on the planet live lives of quiet desperation or at the very least, miserable mediocrity. And even though they sense that they have a unique purpose, they are clueless as to how to uncover it.
9. Of those who think that they have identified their purpose, the overwhelming majority are only seeing a one dimensional view of it.
10. Most who want to know their unique purpose have no idea of how to translate it into an effective, holistic model of business which will work because fear blocks creativity!
11. Those who want to know their purpose are often emotionally paralyzed. They are held captive by subconscious beliefs and fears that make it impossible for them to live fully. Their minds have been held captive by such thoughts as:
A. You can’t make a living doing what you love.
B. Life not only HAS to be hard it supposed to be!
C. Anything worth having IS hard.
D. No one can make a living doing ________ anyway.
E. If I don’t push, make and force things to happen, then I’ll be eaten alive in business! Etc. etc. etc.
(It’s no wonder, with beliefs like these, that business on the planet is about hurting others to save oneself. It is this very insane thinking that leaves no doubt why we are where we are!)
In addition, women have played weak, helpless and dependent for thousands of years. They have relied upon mans acceptance and opinion of them in order to BE ENOUGH! God forbid that they should ever rock that boat and upset their man and therefore their security! Men and women both have huge fears of being alone and therefore can’t create the beautiful, meaningful relationships they could have and are intended to have....
We'll pick up here in the next blog.
Lily Finch, is a business and spiritual development coach. Her work can be found in the Best Selling Series, Wake Up...Live The Life You Love. In the book, A Search for Purpose, you will find her writings featured with Wayne Dyer, Anthony Robbins, Bill Harris and Brian Tracey. She is the author of ‘Holy and Humorous Hell and ‘Butterfly Medicine:Metamorphosis from Caterpillar to Butterfly, Woman to Goddess' under the pen name, Flowerbird.
She is an Inspirational Speaker and the creator of the ‘AlchemEnergy Method of Energy Transformation and the AlchemEnergy- Alchemist-in-Training Codex E-Course. She is a Business Entrepreneur and even a general Contractor.
Lily consults with women on being whole and integrating the spiritual with the physical on every level. She can be reached at: http://lilyfinch.com/
To be greedy is to fear that there is not enough. However, to say it is greedy, wrong and evil to dream or to seek ‘more,’ is to allow divine creativity to shrivel up and die and to give up the abundance that Source has planned for us in the process! As a matter of fact, desire itself, means to be Sired OF the Father. DE-SIRE! To be created by our Source means to endlessly seek and desire growth. Human beings are the only creature on the planet which even seeks the edge of the very universe! We were created in order to learn to effectively create!
There is another amazing thing we learn in DESIRE. We learn what does and doesn’t work to bring about our desires. We learn that it doesn’t work to seek from THE motive of FEAR! We amass great wealth, fame and so called ‘security,’ and yet, if we do so from subconscious fears, we will now only live in greater fear of ‘losing’ it! And every decision we make will be with that same insane thinking and bring about the very thing we fear! You simply cannot ride two horses with one butt! ‘If you pray for success while preparing for failure you will have that thing for which you have prepared.’ So, how can this be authentic wealth? That is actually authentic HELL! If we acquire to feel ‘enough’ and use it to cover up the illusions of scarcity, lack, limitation and loss, then we have just INCREASED our fear, rather than diminished it, since there is now MORE to lose! If we have based our entire value upon anything other than what brings us peace, we WILL CREATE OUR OWN FEARS and we WILL ‘lose’ it! And yet, even in ‘losing’ it, it is absolutely PERFECT!
So how does one learn to use effective creativity in building new ‘BEAUTY WAY’ models of holistic business, leadership and influence? First it’s important to know the basic, core obstacles women face and will have to learn the keys to first transforming these within themselves before they are capable of attracting AUTHENTIC wealth (on every level) to themselves while at the very same time, elevating humanity and shifting the planet in the process:
1. The overwhelming majority of people on the planet operate from more than 95% subconscious. This means that most people are completely unaware as to not only WHAT they fear but that energy of FEAR, itself, is the source of all suffering!
2. Most people have no clue that their subconscious fears have greater power than their conscious desires!
3. Most people do not know that whatever it is that they desire- always has an equal and opposing fear that blocks the desire from manifesting. In addition, they have no idea that there is a simple formula for how to resolve this!
4. More than 99% of all human beings on the planet do not know HOW to discern TRUTH for themselves and therefore are dependent upon someone they have given authority to discern it for them. And to make matters worse, most of those in authority are clueless as to how to discern truth and will only know how to use their authority to control others for their own security!
5. Most Human beings have been told for thousands and thousands of years WHAT to believe and yet, were NEVER taught HOW to KNOW for THEMSELVES what is true. As long as a person does NOT know how to discern what is true for them, then they will always be controlled and manipulated by those in power and authority over them.
6. Most people on the planet do not know that there are simple and beautiful ways to learn or ‘re-remember their power to discern and intuit truth.
7. Most people on the planet do not know that there is an actual formula and science to unlocking the ability to being the Alchemist of their own life and transforming energy on every level.
8. Most people on the planet live lives of quiet desperation or at the very least, miserable mediocrity. And even though they sense that they have a unique purpose, they are clueless as to how to uncover it.
9. Of those who think that they have identified their purpose, the overwhelming majority are only seeing a one dimensional view of it.
10. Most who want to know their unique purpose have no idea of how to translate it into an effective, holistic model of business which will work because fear blocks creativity!
11. Those who want to know their purpose are often emotionally paralyzed. They are held captive by subconscious beliefs and fears that make it impossible for them to live fully. Their minds have been held captive by such thoughts as:
A. You can’t make a living doing what you love.
B. Life not only HAS to be hard it supposed to be!
C. Anything worth having IS hard.
D. No one can make a living doing ________ anyway.
E. If I don’t push, make and force things to happen, then I’ll be eaten alive in business! Etc. etc. etc.
(It’s no wonder, with beliefs like these, that business on the planet is about hurting others to save oneself. It is this very insane thinking that leaves no doubt why we are where we are!)
In addition, women have played weak, helpless and dependent for thousands of years. They have relied upon mans acceptance and opinion of them in order to BE ENOUGH! God forbid that they should ever rock that boat and upset their man and therefore their security! Men and women both have huge fears of being alone and therefore can’t create the beautiful, meaningful relationships they could have and are intended to have....
We'll pick up here in the next blog.
Lily Finch, is a business and spiritual development coach. Her work can be found in the Best Selling Series, Wake Up...Live The Life You Love. In the book, A Search for Purpose, you will find her writings featured with Wayne Dyer, Anthony Robbins, Bill Harris and Brian Tracey. She is the author of ‘Holy and Humorous Hell and ‘Butterfly Medicine:Metamorphosis from Caterpillar to Butterfly, Woman to Goddess' under the pen name, Flowerbird.
She is an Inspirational Speaker and the creator of the ‘AlchemEnergy Method of Energy Transformation and the AlchemEnergy- Alchemist-in-Training Codex E-Course. She is a Business Entrepreneur and even a general Contractor.
Lily consults with women on being whole and integrating the spiritual with the physical on every level. She can be reached at: http://lilyfinch.com/
Thursday, May 6, 2010
A Message from Spiritual Teacher, Lily Finch: The Feminine Keys to Creating Holistic Business Models
As the writer of the New ‘Beauty Way’ Model of Business, Leadership and Illuminated Influence, L.E. Coleman, whom I affectionately call Brother, asked me to join with him and share my opinion about what it will take to build holistic businesses and implement them so that they are not only effective but prosperous.
What I write now will not be easy for most to hear but it is absolutely necessary. Einstein was dead on when he said, ““We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” To approach building new models of holistic business from the same approach that has always been done is to recreate the same current economic and global problems that we have always done. It simply will not work. A good builder knows that the foundation of a home must be square in order to keep the house standing later on. If women approach growing a business in the same way that it has been approached before, we will not grow anything. We will not only constrict life, we will be cooking up the perfect recipe for disaster.
So follow along, you awakening women, to hear the hard but freeing truth about what women have to do in order to not only provide the desires they seek but to change our global situation. And yes, men, you are invited too, as WO+MEN means both men and women whereas ‘MAN’ has left out the ‘WO’ since the beginning of time! To be WO+MEN means you are awakening and integrating the characteristics of both the AUTHENTIC masculine and the AUTHENTIC feminine. So yes, men, you are certainly invited into this discussion if you dare come along. However, I must warn you that it is likely that you will dislike what is being said, even more than women!
Women have typically avoided leadership and business for thousands of years because they believed what they were being told: that they were the ‘weaker sex,’ that business was just too hard, bloody and tyrannical for their ‘gentle’ nature. So women believed that they either had to DO it like men did it or crawl back into their safe little nests and let the guys do the dirty work. After all, business was dirty, right?
The perception when it came to women being in business was that there were only two ways a woman could go. One way was to play the game like it has always been played. That is to say, be a cut throat business-person. The other way was simple: bow out and forget about business altogether . The underlying sentiment a male dominated business world was encapsulated in the stereotypical feeling that you either turn into a cut-throat’ or maintain the sensitivity of caring more about people than things--the old 'either/or fallacy.'
The realization comes (seeing with real eyes) when one sees the truth: that cut throat dog-eat-dog business is simply a business model perpetuated by inauthentic non-leaders. And this non-leader can be a man or woman. The truth of the matter is that both, the business mindset and the model is motivated entirely by FEAR! This kind of business IS--and I repeat--IS the problem! It is the problem because it is founded fear. The fear based beliefs of the majority of people on the planet perpetuates the false notion that there is always scarcity, lack, limitation and loss.
So women won’t be any better than men building new holistic models of business if fear is their motivator. And even worse, due to a woman’s power, she creates even greater negativity in the world! Sorry, that’s just the way it is. There were many women rallying in recent years ‘IT IS TIME FOR A WOMAN PRESIDENT’ without seeing that just ANY woman as president is more dangerous than ever! When you teach a man, you throw a pebble in the water. When you teach a woman, you throw the mountain into the ocean. Women are the first ‘god’ that every human being knows in the world. In just carrying a child alone, she shapes their self image and esteem through the DNA she passes on which holds the memory of all the beliefs and thoughts of those who have come before her! How she loves honors and cares for her child and herself and the subsequent decisions she makes from ‘authentic’ love can change the world without doing another thing! When a man is stuck, he’s a real jerk. And yes, fathers have an enormous effect on their children. But in every book and opinion, every mother is ‘SUPPOSED’ to love her child! Not so strict when it comes to men. So, when a woman is stuck, she’s simply horrendous! And that is why Larry so wisely addressed this book to women! He is one of the few men on the planet who KNOWS!
You see, for thousands of years, people have sought to acquire wealth, power and prestige in order to BE ENOUGH. Of course it doesn’t work. There is never enough- ENOUGH-NESS when you fear NOT being enough. That black hole of emptiness can only be filled with one thing! To seek to build effective holistic business models which we ‘say’ we want in order to shift the planet, that are actually based on the ‘neediness’ of wanting to fill the empty hole of ‘insecurity,’ is to use the same thinking we have for thousands of years! WE have always sought FIRST to resolve on the external level what we ‘perceive’ we lack on the internal level. We will pick up with this in the next blog.
(c)2010 Lily Finch
A word about Lily.
Lily Finch, is a business and spiritual development coach. Her work can be found in the Best Selling Series, Wake Up...Live The Life You Love. In the book, A Search for Purpose, you will find her writings featured with Wayne Dyer, Anthony Robbins, Bill Harris and Brian Tracey. She is the author of ‘Holy and Humorous Hell and ‘Butterfly Medicine:Metamorphosis from Caterpillar to Butterfly, Woman to Goddess' under the pen name, Flowerbird.
She is an Inspirational Speaker and the creator of the ‘AlchemEnergy Method of Energy Transformation and the AlchemEnergy- Alchemist-in-Training Codex E-Course. She is a Business Entrepreneur and even a general Contractor.
Lily consults with women on being whole and integrating the spiritual with the physical on every level. She can be reached at: http://lilyfinch.com/
What I write now will not be easy for most to hear but it is absolutely necessary. Einstein was dead on when he said, ““We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” To approach building new models of holistic business from the same approach that has always been done is to recreate the same current economic and global problems that we have always done. It simply will not work. A good builder knows that the foundation of a home must be square in order to keep the house standing later on. If women approach growing a business in the same way that it has been approached before, we will not grow anything. We will not only constrict life, we will be cooking up the perfect recipe for disaster.
So follow along, you awakening women, to hear the hard but freeing truth about what women have to do in order to not only provide the desires they seek but to change our global situation. And yes, men, you are invited too, as WO+MEN means both men and women whereas ‘MAN’ has left out the ‘WO’ since the beginning of time! To be WO+MEN means you are awakening and integrating the characteristics of both the AUTHENTIC masculine and the AUTHENTIC feminine. So yes, men, you are certainly invited into this discussion if you dare come along. However, I must warn you that it is likely that you will dislike what is being said, even more than women!
Women have typically avoided leadership and business for thousands of years because they believed what they were being told: that they were the ‘weaker sex,’ that business was just too hard, bloody and tyrannical for their ‘gentle’ nature. So women believed that they either had to DO it like men did it or crawl back into their safe little nests and let the guys do the dirty work. After all, business was dirty, right?
The perception when it came to women being in business was that there were only two ways a woman could go. One way was to play the game like it has always been played. That is to say, be a cut throat business-person. The other way was simple: bow out and forget about business altogether . The underlying sentiment a male dominated business world was encapsulated in the stereotypical feeling that you either turn into a cut-throat’ or maintain the sensitivity of caring more about people than things--the old 'either/or fallacy.'
The realization comes (seeing with real eyes) when one sees the truth: that cut throat dog-eat-dog business is simply a business model perpetuated by inauthentic non-leaders. And this non-leader can be a man or woman. The truth of the matter is that both, the business mindset and the model is motivated entirely by FEAR! This kind of business IS--and I repeat--IS the problem! It is the problem because it is founded fear. The fear based beliefs of the majority of people on the planet perpetuates the false notion that there is always scarcity, lack, limitation and loss.
So women won’t be any better than men building new holistic models of business if fear is their motivator. And even worse, due to a woman’s power, she creates even greater negativity in the world! Sorry, that’s just the way it is. There were many women rallying in recent years ‘IT IS TIME FOR A WOMAN PRESIDENT’ without seeing that just ANY woman as president is more dangerous than ever! When you teach a man, you throw a pebble in the water. When you teach a woman, you throw the mountain into the ocean. Women are the first ‘god’ that every human being knows in the world. In just carrying a child alone, she shapes their self image and esteem through the DNA she passes on which holds the memory of all the beliefs and thoughts of those who have come before her! How she loves honors and cares for her child and herself and the subsequent decisions she makes from ‘authentic’ love can change the world without doing another thing! When a man is stuck, he’s a real jerk. And yes, fathers have an enormous effect on their children. But in every book and opinion, every mother is ‘SUPPOSED’ to love her child! Not so strict when it comes to men. So, when a woman is stuck, she’s simply horrendous! And that is why Larry so wisely addressed this book to women! He is one of the few men on the planet who KNOWS!
You see, for thousands of years, people have sought to acquire wealth, power and prestige in order to BE ENOUGH. Of course it doesn’t work. There is never enough- ENOUGH-NESS when you fear NOT being enough. That black hole of emptiness can only be filled with one thing! To seek to build effective holistic business models which we ‘say’ we want in order to shift the planet, that are actually based on the ‘neediness’ of wanting to fill the empty hole of ‘insecurity,’ is to use the same thinking we have for thousands of years! WE have always sought FIRST to resolve on the external level what we ‘perceive’ we lack on the internal level. We will pick up with this in the next blog.
(c)2010 Lily Finch
A word about Lily.
Lily Finch, is a business and spiritual development coach. Her work can be found in the Best Selling Series, Wake Up...Live The Life You Love. In the book, A Search for Purpose, you will find her writings featured with Wayne Dyer, Anthony Robbins, Bill Harris and Brian Tracey. She is the author of ‘Holy and Humorous Hell and ‘Butterfly Medicine:Metamorphosis from Caterpillar to Butterfly, Woman to Goddess' under the pen name, Flowerbird.
She is an Inspirational Speaker and the creator of the ‘AlchemEnergy Method of Energy Transformation and the AlchemEnergy- Alchemist-in-Training Codex E-Course. She is a Business Entrepreneur and even a general Contractor.
Lily consults with women on being whole and integrating the spiritual with the physical on every level. She can be reached at: http://lilyfinch.com/
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